PARENT/CARER SUPPORT INFORMATION
Welcome to the Parent Carer Support Guide, designed to provide practical advice, resources and encouragement for parents and carers.
Parenting and Caregiving are profoundly rewarding roles, but they can also feel overwhelming at times, particularly when balancing the diverse needs of a child with the demands of everyday life. This guide aims to empower you with the information and tools to confidently support your child while taking care of your own wellbeing
ONLINE / E-SAFETY GUIDANCE
MY FAMILY'S DIGITAL TOOLKIT
What’s inside the toolkit:
- Get age-specific advice and tips to support your children online
- Learn about popular apps and platforms your children use
- Get information about how to deal with any online safety concerns
- Get recommendations for digital tools to support their interests and wellbeing
- Help to manage screen time
Keep Children Safe Online: Information, Advice, Support - Internet Matters
TEENS' ONLINE DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS
What’s inside the toolkit:
- What online relationships look like for teens
- Why teens like online dating
- The risks of online relationships
- What the experts say
- Download online dating guide
- Get more support
Teens' online dating and relationships safety | Internet Matters
GUIDE TO APPS YOUNG PEOPLE USE
What’s inside the toolkit:
- Apps to support digital wellbeing
- Learn about different types of apps
- Age related apps
GET KIDS TECH SET UP SAFE
What’s inside the toolkit:
- Offers help on how to set up multiple devices from smart speakers to educational toys
- How to use in-built safety controls from you broadband provider
- Guidance for setting up a social media account
Set up safe advice for parents and carers | Internet Matters
REPORTING ISSUES
What’s inside the toolkit:
- Guidance for reporting any concerns online
- Information about when to report an issue
- Parent forum information
Report online issues to protect your child | Internet Matters
SOCIAL MEDIA ADVICE
What’s inside the toolkit:
- Navigating the ‘Risks and Rewards’ of social media
- Fake news and Misinformation
- Cyberbullying / Trolling
NSPCC - RESOURCES FOR CHILDREN WITH SEND
NSPCC have partnered with Ambitious about Autism to create online safety tips, advice and activities for parents and carers of children with SEND, including children with dyslexia, autism and speech and language difficulties.
SLEEP AND ROUTINE GUIDANCE
WHY DOESN'T MY TEEN SLEEP?
There is a great deal of emphasis on teaching teens about healthy eating and exercise but not enough on the importance of a good night’s sleep. Sleep problems can be a very serious issue and lack of sleep has been linked to obesity, depression and impaired learning.
If you’re having trouble getting your teenager out of bed in a morning, then there are several practical hints and tips that may help. Talking over worries may well help to put them into perspective.
THE TOP TIPS
Here is a little information to help you understand your teens sleep and how you can help.
- Emphasise the importance of sleep and that it improves memory and performance. Teens need at least eight hours’ sleep on school nights.
- Encourage regular exercise – 20 minutes three times a week will help.
- Suggest they drink less caffeine (in cola and energy drinks as well as tea and coffee). Too much caffeine stops them falling asleep and prevents deep sleep.
- Point out that eating too much or too little close to bedtime – an over full or empty stomach – may prevent sleep onset, or cause discomfort throughout the night.
- Try and get your teen into a good bed routine – suggest that doing the same things in the same order before going to sleep can help.
- Eliminate electronic devices from the bedroom. If this isn’t possible, try to zone areas of the room for work, leisure and sleep.
- Ensure a good sleep environment – a room that is dark, cool, quiet, safe and comfortable.
- Make sure your teenager has a comfortable bed. It may be time to get a new one – and encourage him or her to choose it themselves.
Remember, habits learnt in adolescence often become lifetime habits – so make sure good sleep habits are learnt early.
PARENTING GUIDANCE
We know that being a parent or carer isn’t always easy. Although it’s often amazing and rewarding to watch your children or young people grow up, it can also be really hard work. Things might feel especially difficult if your child or young person is struggling with their mental health at the moment. Or if their mood and behaviour seem different, and you're not sure why or what you can do to help. But you are not alone. Parents Mental Health Support | Advice for Your Child | YoungMinds
LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF AS A PARENT OR CARER
- Ask for help if you need it
- Don’t struggle alone
- Take time for yourself
- Don’t blame yourself
- You’re doing everything you can
- Speak to your GP if you’re struggling to cope
Parents' Guide to Looking After Your Mental Health | YoungMinds
YOU AND YOUR CHILD
HELPING YOUR CHILD
GIVE IT SOME TIME
Worrying or difficult behaviour might be short-lived, so give it some time. All children go through stages of feeling anxious or angry and they can show this in lots of ways - for example, tantrums, crying, sleeping problems or fighting with friends or siblings. They might be adapting to a change in the family or in their school life, or just trying out new emotions, and will generally grow out of worrying behaviour on their own or with family support.
TALK TO YOUR CHILD
Even young children can understand about feelings and behaviour if you give them a chance to talk about it. Take it gently and give them examples of what you mean. For example:
"When you said you hated Molly, you looked really angry. What was making you so cross?"
Or:
"What you can't get to sleep, is there anything in your mind making you worried?"
TRY DIFFERENT FORMS OF COMMUNICATION
With older children, they might not want to talk at first. Let them know you are concerned about them, and are there if they need you. Sending an email or a text can work better if this is the way your child likes to communicate.
WORK WITH YOUR CHILD TO PROBLEM-SOLVE
Ask your child what they think would help - they often have good ideas about solving their own problems.
TALK TO YOUR CHILD'S OTHER PARENT
If you can, talk to your child's other parent about your worries when your child is not around. They might have a different take on what's going on.
Try and sort out how to deal with the behaviour together so you are using the same approach and can back each other up. Children are quick to spot if parents disagree, and can try and use this to get their own way.
HATE CRIME GUIDANCE (RACISM / HOMOPHOBIA)
WHAT IS HATE CRIME?
A Hate Crime is any criminal offence that is motivated by hostility and prejudice towards a person’s identity or perceived identity. The following are the five nationally monitored strands:
- Disability
- Race
- Religion/Faith
- Sexual Orientation
- Transgender Identity
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HATE CRIME AND HATE INCIDENTS
- A Hate incident is any incident that the person affected or anyone else believes is based on a person’s identity.
- Not all Hate incidents will lead to criminal offences though. One-off incidents such as malicious complaints about parking or abusive gestures may fall short of being a criminal act but if they are repeated, they can become crimes.
EXAMPLES OF HATE CRIME
Any criminal offence can be a Hate Crime if it was carried out because of hostility or prejudice based on disability, race, religion, transgender identity, or sexual orientation:
- physical assault
- verbal abuse
- criminal damage to property or possession
- harassment
- sexual assault
- theft
- fraud
- hate mail (Malicious Communications Act 1988)
- causing harassment, alarm, or distress (Public Order Act 1986).
- online abuse for example on Facebook or Twitter
- displaying or circulating discriminatory literature or posters
- graffiti
VAPING / SUBSTANCE MISUSE
There has been an increase in young people using vapes and in particular experimenting with THC vaping. THC is the chemical that gives the ‘high’ effect in cannabis. The latest reports show that this has led to some young people overdosing on THC, causing them to become unwell and needing medical attention.
Vaping THC will have similar effects to using cannabis. Vaping THC as opposed to smoking cannabis allows a larger amount of THC to be inhaled very quickly, potentially causing overdosing. The effects of vaping THC depends on the amount of THC/CBD in the vape, your child's mood, the environment and how often it is used.
Honest information about drugs | FRANK
SHORT TERM EFFECTS
- Blood shot eyes
- Dazed/dreamy demeanour
- Short term memory loss
- Faint/feeling sick
- The giggles
- The munchies
- Dry mouth
- Paranoia
- Anxiety
LONG TERM EFFECTS
The long term effects of cannabis use can include the increased risk of psychotic illness such as schizophrenia as well as other mental health issues.
- Schizophrenia = delusions and hallucinations.
- Delusions = believing things that are not true
- Hallucinations = seeing things that are not really there
- Risk of schizophrenia is increased if you use cannabis from a young age, frequent use, stronger.
- Cannabis i.e. skunk, and family history of schizophrenia.
ADDITIONAL GENERAL SUPPORT INFORMATION
CONTACT DETAILS
Rotherham Council | Social Care / Early Help (01709 336080) | Report a concern about a child or young person – Rotherham Metropolitan Borough Council |
Barnsley Council | Social Care / Early Help (01226 772 423) | Children's social care |
Grief Encounter | Bereavement support (0808 802 0111) | Home SUPPORTING BEREAVED CHILDREN & YOUNG PEOPLE - Grief Encounter |
NSPCC | Worrying about Gangs / Criminal Exploitation | Criminal exploitation and gangs | NSPCC |
Young Minds | General support for parents and young people | YoungMinds | Mental Health Charity For Children And Young People | YoungMinds |
RotherHive | Wellbeing and Mental Health support inc, debt management, domestic abuse and homeless | RotherHive – The wellbeing and mental health resource for Rotherham |
With You | Rotherham ROADS - Substance misuse support for adults/young people | Drug and Alcohol Support in Rotherham (ROADS) | WithYou |